I know I’m not the only teacher who struggles to meet the needs of all her students, but after 25 years, I am still surprised by the wide range of responses I get from my students and their parents. The following comments come from parents of students (and students, too) who have been in the same class period with me this year:
“Thank you so much! I think you are such an amazing teacher, and my son says you are the best teacher he has ever had. Thank you!”
“My son thinks you don’t like him, and I agree. And that’s why he isn’t doing well in your class.”
“My daughter is so much more confident now about her writing! Thank you so much for pushing her and challenging her. She struggled a lot in your class, but she says she has learned so much.”
“She has no desire to learn because of the way you teach. You need to teach so that she will want to do the work.”
“Thank you for all that you’ve done for my son. He really likes English now and thinks the world of you as his English teacher. I know you’ll be one of those teachers he looks back on in years to come as the one who taught him how to read and understand books.
“I think I’m going to pull him out of your class. This whole experience is hurting his personality.”
“She said she actually likes to read now! I am thrilled, she hasn’t liked to read since pre-school!”
These students have been in the same classroom, with the same teacher, doing the same assignments, and they have had such different experiences. As the year comes to an end and my students move on to high school, I would like to say:
I am so very sorry for failing to reach you. For all you students who struggled in my class, who didn’t love the books we read, who couldn’t find good books to read, who didn’t get the help you needed, I am truly sorry. I wish we could have a do-over, go back to August and start over again, so I could see you in a new light; so I could see what you needed as a reader and writer; so I could try again to find the right books to get you hooked on reading; so I could offer the right suggestions for you to find your voice in writing. I am so very sorry.
Thank you so much, all you parents, for reading to your kids, bringing your kids to the library, reading books yourselves, and talking about the value of reading. When your kids came to my classroom already identifying themselves as readers, they were one step ahead of the game. Their literacy skills were already above grade level, so they were prepared to tackle the reading and writing of 8th grade. They were ready to analyze writing, to pick apart figurative language, because they could easily move through comprehension and up into a richer, more complex appreciation of literature.
Thank you so much, all you parents, who supported your kids in their school work. I have never met a parent who said, “I don’t think school is important,” but I have met plenty who didn’t know how to make school important for their kids. Thank you for asking your kids about their homework, for holding them accountable for completing their work, for checking the online gradebook for how your child is doing, for contacting me when you had questions or concerns, for supporting me in my role as teacher. Thank you for doing your part in making me a good teacher.
Thank you so much, all you students, who came to class with a thirst for knowledge. Thank you for asking questions, for seeking answers, for coming in at lunch to get help on your work. Your desire to learn and efforts to improve are a significant factor in why you have succeeded this year. You didn’t watch the clock, counting down the minutes until you could leave. You focused on the work, which made the work more interesting to you, which made you a better student. You call me a great teacher, but maybe it is your great desire to learn that makes me look good.
I have heard from enough students and parents over the years to be confident that my work impacts my students. But I also know that there are many other factors that impact my students, factors that can improve their learning experiences and those that can impede them. And that’s what makes me say “I’m sorry” as the year comes to a close and I know that, once again, I have not been successful with some of my students.
To all my students, thank you for teaching me more about how to be a good teacher. I learn from you every year, and every year I hope that I can take what you teach me and bring it to my next class in the fall.
Have a great summer and keep on reading those good books!
3 thoughts on “Thank you (so much) and I’m so (very) sorry.”
Thanks, Laura, for sharing your experiences on this bizarre train ride called teaching. I can identify with every word. I recently wrote my version of this (with a bit more on student behavior) on my blog (http://kabod1.edublogs.org). Since I’m not coming back, I felt more freedom than I had in the past regarding the student’s role; I like how you address the importance of parent involvement and how we teachers know we’ve done what we’ve could, but it often doesn’t seem like enough.
Thanks, Laura, for sharing your experiences on this bizarre train ride called teaching. I can identify with every word. I recently wrote my version of this (with a bit more on student behavior) on my blog (http://kabod1.edublogs.org). Since I’m not coming back, I felt more freedom than I had in the past regarding the student’s role; I like how you address the importance of parent involvement and how we teachers know we’ve done what we’ve could, but it often doesn’t seem like enough. Enjoy the journey, Aram.
Thanks for reading, responding, and sharing, Aram! I especially want new teachers to know that they work hard, they are appreciated by many, but there will always be unhappy parents and students. We have to go easy on ourselves. Enjoy your “not coming back”!